Over the past decade, I've tried to be the best parent I know how to be. That's why it's important for me to learn as much as I can to be an effective parent with positive parenting solutions. Similar to what I do to renew my professional certifications as a Solutions Architect, I look for parenting resources that help me with the kid. These are resources that either introduces me to parenting concepts I'm not familiar with or offers confirmation on what I'm doing right.
Let's face it, we really won't know the outcome of our parenting until our kids are a fully functioning adult, right? Yes, there are results we can see much sooner, i.e. manners, but for the most part how will your kid function as an adult? My prayer and my efforts are that my husband and I raise a healthy, happy, self-aware, self-loving human being, that has a healthy way to cope with disappointment [to name a few]. If I'm 100% honest, I also pray that there's minimal damage and scars throughout the duration of her childhood...LOL! #funny #notfunny
While I didn't learn these tactics recently, I have learned to say them out loud, sit in its (dis)comfort and release to the universe. In this phase; at this age, it works for me and I see results in my relationship with the kid. With that said, here are a few things that I'm doing in my relationship with the kid:
- Look through my daughter's lens - acknowledge her thoughts, worries, and criticisms.
- Listen without judgement - an extension of the bullet above, hear what your kid is saying to you.
- State expected behavior - children will rise to the level of expectation you set for them...I aim high!
- Accept and receive criticism - she may be only ten, but there are times her perspective gives me pause.
The last bullet, I've recently learned to accept this with grace. After my daughter gently expressed these words, "Mommy, sometimes you jump to conclusions. If you listened a little longer and ask questions, you would get the answer you're looking for." Uh-huh! Out of the mouths of babes...
How about you? What are some parenting tactics you're doing with your kid(s)? I'd love to know, please share in a comment below.
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